World's oldest blogger María Amelia López Soliño dies

Spanish grandmother Maria Amelia Lopez logged off for the last time on Wednesday morning, her family has announced

The world's oldest blogger – a 97-year-old Spanish grandmother introduced to the internet by her grandchildren two years ago – has died.
Maria Amelia Lopez’s posts touched on many aspects of her long life, from political memories of the Franco era to intimate musings on her increasingly fragile state of health.
Mrs Lopez blogged from the seaside town of Muxia, where she was born in 1911, or from the farmhouse in Galicia belonging to her grandson, Daniel.
She wrote: "On December 23rd 2006, my grandson gave me a present, this blog when I was 95 years old ... and my life changed ... now, I can communicate and interact with the world."

Her blog, at amis95.blogspot.com, became a global hit, notching up more than 1.5 million visits. As her fame spread, Mrs Lopez became an unlikely campaigner for digital rights for older people, and even took tea with the Jose Luis Rodriguez Zapatero, the Spanish Prime Minister.
She wrote frequently of the benefits of the online community she had created.
In one of her last posts, in February this year, she wrote: "When I'm on the internet, I forget about my illness. The distraction is good for you – being able to communicate with people. It wakes up the brain, and gives you great strength."
Mrs Lopez became the world's oldest blogger on the death of 108-year-old Australian Oliver Riley in June 2008. The new holder of this unoffical title is unknown, although the actor Kirk Douglas, 92, who blogs regularly on his MySpace page, could be in the running.
Twitter's oldest microblogger is the 104-year-old Briton Ivy Bean, who keeps her 14,600 followers entertained at twitter.com/ivybean104.

Source: http://technology.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/tech_and_web/article6344077.ece

Is Human Contact a Cultural thing??

Does culture play a role in making some of us in this world more into human contact than others, or is it a personal character determined?

A question that needs to be answered by you.....

Please leave your opinion........


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Stay Focused, have a Goal in Life!

How Happy will your goal make you??

How Happy is your goal? a simple statement that contains a valuable asset of information within it, why?

Well first of all, lets go back to our first step : " Defining a goal" and lets all agree that Knowing your goal will make it easier for you to achieve it, simply because " When people set goals, they will not choose to do anything which is not conducive to the achievement of that goal.

So now that each one of us has already defined his /her goal when it comes to streghtening Human relations, we need to study that goal. We need to see its horizons. We need to define its possibility of making us Happy.

Remember that Goals are thoughts and that Good thoughts achieve good results and Bad thoughts achieve bad results and none of us want to achive bad resutls, that is why we need to be sure of the goal that we want to achieve and how happy it will make us.

A friend of mine is always reminding me that Life should not always be focused on making other people happy, but it needs to focus on making you happy as well. However, i have always been stating that in every aspect of our life, we need people. We need them arround us to make us feel social, we need people arround us to make us feel loved, We need people arround us to encourage us to reach our goals, and we need people arround us to help us strenghten our human relationships. So basically, there is nothing bad in sacrificing part of your life, week, or a day in making people smile, happy, and feel good about themslves. That is of course without forgetting the major happiness that needs to be present and that is " Your Happiness".

Therefore, the second step in building a good human relations in today's world, after defining your goal is to make sure that your goal will make you happy. If not, then that goal is not based on a healthy thought and will result in an unhelathy goal and therefore a total unhappiness.

So lets build our human relationships on a Happy goal :)

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Human Relations is like a tennis game – an exchange of energies!!

One day i read this very interesting article that compared human relationships to a Tennis Game, and i thought i would summarize some of its contents related to setting goals in order for us all to start our mission on building successful relationships with a defined Goal.

"Human relations is like a game of tennis. The ball you serve comes back. I serve a negative ball; I get a negative ball in return. If I serve a positive ball, I will get a positive ball in return."Quote from the article.

What is our Goal now? this is the first question that needs to be asked by each one of us.

Do you want to have plenty of friends? do you want to be liked by most people? do you want to improve your realtionships with your daughter/son? do you want to improve and advance your love relationship with your man-woman, do you want to get along in a better way with your collegues?.....

Knowing your goal will make it easier for you to achieve it, why simply because " When people set goals, they will not choose to do anything which is not conducive to the achievement of the goal. Life is all about achieving desirable goals. Goals are thoughts. Good thoughts achieve good results. Bad thoughts achieve bad results." quoted from the article ( see link below)

So the rule of this : " In human relations – if you want to take something from somebody, first give him its equivalent. That is why the maxim goes like `Give and Take’. Have you heard of a law, which says, `Take and Give’. No. If you want love, give love first. If you want appreciation from your boss, work as if it were your own company and so on..."

So what do i mean by all this, before we start drafting our resolutions for a " New Life " full of human interactions, we first need to set our goals. What do we really want to achieve!!

In the same article they came about this technique: " Recall the names of all those people with whom you have some kind of tension. Now, do this self-talk, `` Mr. X and Mr.Y, I want to have a positive relationship with you. I am forgiving you here and now for all the harm you have done to me. I have decided to love you unconditionally. I am requesting you to forgive me for my mistakes.’’ Now, slowly your own mental states will change. You will notice that the old hatred and anger has disappeared!"

This is a example of a situation where a misunderstaing resulted in a hatred between two people and therefore caused some sort of tension and a loss of human interaction between these people. However, we can start on our demarch from the same ideology, and then i will be writing the names of all the people with whom i would like to build stronger ties and relationships and i would go like this:

" My son... I would love to get closer to you and i want for us to spend more time together at the house, GYM, the library, the ice cream place, the mall,...." or i would go like this " My collegue, i would love for us to spend some time together out of office time along with the other collegues in order for us to establish more human ties that are out of the professional atmopshere" and so on.

I once was asked by my Professor at my capstone seminar at Montana State university, Bozeman to read this book called " The seven habits of highly effective people". I always hated reading and i never thought i would ever go on reading even 10 pages of that book. However, it turned out that i read that same book over and over and over. Why??

The book did not only teaches you about how to be effective as a person , but it teaches you many rules that applies to our daily life and that need to be part of it. In this book, written by Stephen R.Covey’s there is a chapter entitled ``Seek first to understand and then be understood’, which is very enriching and talks about the same principle of giving and taking.

So what we need to put in mind is this: "In everything including human relationships,You cannot take back what you have not given!" Try to apply this rule with all your entourage, and You will simply be amazed by the tremendous change and the outcome this law will have on your life.

Why this Blog???

Before i decided to create this blog and carry on my great passion for human relationships, i always wanted to help people, assist them, be nice to people, and above all consider myslef a friend to every person i meet in my life; being old, or young, black or white, Muslim, jewish, christian, male or female..... Why simply because i always believed that there is nothing worth in life more than having a good and an enduring relationship with people.

I have discovered throughout my past 7 years that most of my life has been concentrated on a machine, and that is the Computer. These years have been almost computeralized in all its apsects to the extent that my human interaction with people started to degrade.

I have always been hearing this friend of mine telling me " Houssna are we becoming like a machine" and i would be asking her always why are you saying this.... ??? She would go like this:" the first thing we do when we wake up is to turn on our computers, work and study and write and chat and talk to people and the last thing we do before we sleep is to turn off our computer..; So basically our daily life is related to a machine that is driving us to loose our Physcial- human interaction.

When i thought of what she has been telling me and other friends of ours, i felt that she is right... but i related that to distance and the fact that we are in a country that is not ours, which neccesistaes the use of computers all day long to stay in touch with people....

Yet, our arrival to Morocco, made us feel that it not a question of distance, but it is rather a matter of atittude, a need, a must to do aspect that we cant get rid of.

Our work need us to be on a daily basis with a computer in hand, even during weekend. Our relationships with people ( friendships, dating, and even marriages) nowdays are relying on MSN, Yahoo messenger, SKYPE, emails, and many other technical tools that have been making it easier for us to get in touch with our friends, and relatives, yet depriving us from the entertainement of having a physical contact with these people.

Thus, i decided to use techonology to help us get back the human ties that were lost, help us understand more about ways of improving our social ties , by understanding more about our lives, our attitudes, our behaviors, our entourage....

I decided to create this blog to help myslef and everybody else understand more about human relationships and interactivity. To help us all achieve a better place to live , to pave the road for us all to get acquinted with more techniques for having a happy life.

How many of us write in their to do list for the week... Meeting with friends?? Coffee with family? dinner with my boyfriend-girlfriend? lunch with my wife-husband? visiting my grandmother?..... I personally find myslef unable to do it?and i always purposely relate that to the busy schedule of my work and the non stop professional duties that are making me always in front of a machine..... But that is not really the reason? and i am sure that this is not your reaon as well....

So this blog, will help us all draft our to do list for every week with at least a 30 to 40 % personal attitude that aims to strenghten our social and Human relationships with each other.

Good Luck,

Understanding Human Relationships!

One of the most important relationship lessons I learned was this: The relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves. Our external relationships and our internal relationships are in fact the same relationships. They only seem different because we look at them through different lenses....

Let’s consider why this is true. Where do all your relationships exist? They exist in your thoughts. Your relationship with another person is whatever you imagine it to be. Whether you love someone or hate someone, you’re right. Now the other person may have a completely different relationship to you, but understand that your representation of what someone else thinks of you is also part of your thoughts. So your relationship with someone includes what you think of that person and what you believe s/he thinks of you. You can complicate it further by imagining what the other person thinks you think of him/her, but ultimately those internal representations are all you have.

Even if your relationships exist in some objective reality independent of your thoughts, you never have access to the objective viewpoint. You’re always viewing your relationships through the lens of your own consciousness. The closest you can get to being objective is to imagine being objective, but that is in no way the same thing as true objectivity. That’s because the act of observation requires a conscious observer, which is subjective by its very nature.

At first it might seem troublesome that you can never hope to gain a truly accurate, 100% objective understanding of your relationships. You can never escape the subjective lens of your own consciousness. That would be like trying to find the color blue with a red lens permanently taped over your eyes. That doesn’t stop people from trying, but such attempts are in vain. If you fall into the trap of trying to think of your relationships as objective entities that are external to you, you’ll be using an inescapably inaccurate model of reality. Consequently, the likely outcome is that you’ll frustrate yourself to no end when it comes to human relationships. You’ll make relating to other people a lot harder than it needs to be. Intuitively you may know something is off in your approach to relationships, but you’ll remain stuck until you realize that every relationship you have with another person is really a relationship that exists entirely within yourself.

Fortunately, once you embrace the subjective nature of relationships, you’ll have a much easier time relating to people. It’s easier to get where you want to go when you have an accurate map. The subjective view of relationships implies that you can change or improve your relationships with others by working on the internal relationships within yourself. Furthermore, you can improve your internal relationships, such as your self-esteem, by working on your relationships with others. Ultimately it’s all the same thing.


Source: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/01/understanding-human-relationships/