On my last post , i talked about how Love can bring people closer and heal almost every wound created by negative attitudes that are making people in today's world further from each other every day. Today, and while sitting at home watching a TV show about " Cheating" , which i come across by chance while surfing the chaneles, i wondered about this outspreading phenomenon that is taking place almost everywhere and in most relationships not to say all, simply because i truly belive that there are still respectable Men and Women who love and respect each other. It really bothers me to see a woman loving a man so much and doing almost everything to make him happy and he turns out and cheats on her. I immeditaly jumped on my computer and i started writing to share how i feel about this , especially with Women, because We are the most affected by the pehnomenon...
I always believed that Love is a beautiful feeling that everybody is pursuing and looking for. However; while watching the show i noticed that many women ( and here i emphasise that my message from this post is mainly to you women out there who have been the victim of one sided Love that resulted in a Cheating situation from your partner!
Once again, i insist that Love is a beautiful feeling. There is nothing as beautful in this world as when a woman is being truly loved by a man. When that man is ready to do anything just to draw a smile on her face. I have been in touch with many women who have expressed their need to this kind of love simply because they were not able to find it despite their endless trials.
While watching the program, i noticed the large amout of women who have been a victim of their men's selfish attitude and that is "Cheating". I saw the pain on their faces, i saw the hurt and the humiliation in their eyes and i felt how bad that feeling is for a woman who truly loves her husband, or boyfriend. I thought a lot about this and i come up with one major conclusion behind this act that equals the following : When a woman fells in Love with a man who do not love her with the same equity that she does.. that Woman is most likely to be cheated on.
Again, i stress that my conclusion is coming from not only the show i watched, but from personal stories i heard from fiends, relatives and many women who crossed my path throughout my life.
Out of Love, a woman can bear almost anything and some women unfortuantely, and for the sake of love and the protection of the relationship, they bear the cheating aspect of a man . The fear and the hesitation and in many cases, the low slef esteem, are the reason why many women out there were not able to stand up and say i cant take it anymore.
Every women in this world deserves the right to be happy, treated with dignity and repsect and Loved in return for the love she gives. Most women get angry and furious after a cheating act, they might break up with the guy for a week, two, a month , two months but where there is Love , A true One! that woman comes back.. but what she should know is this: Once a Cheater always a cheater...
My message to you women out there who have been in a situation where you felt like there is no other way to go but to be back to the man who humiliates you and bellitelled you and direspected you, i am saying, stand up and say " I deserve a better place because i worth more that what He considers me to be".It will be very hard to do it but here are few steps that can help you deal with it if you decided that you will walk away:
1- Always say positive things to yourslef: It is not about you.. but it is rather his instability that led him to cheat on a woman who loved Him so much
2- You Can always find better person who will appreciate you and love you the way you deserve
3-Keep yourslef Busy at work, arround friends, dont stay on your own
4- Look beautiful everyday ( that will reinforce your self esteem) Go shopping with friends, Treat yourslef the way you deserve to be treated!
5- Turn the page and dont look back simply because a man who decided to replace you was never the perfect match for you.. so there is no need to waste your time thinking about him
6- Smile and be Happy because there is nothing better that can cure the break of a heart than a big smile and a cheerful attitude :)
7- Forgive and Forget: It will help your soul get stablised and will get you over it in a short of time.
Remember that a hint to the wise is sufficient enough.. so dont wait for another heartbreak..If you find yourslef in this situation, Jump out of the relationship and call it a day.. It was not worth!
H.J
