My Story with 2011

2011 was the learning experience in my whole life!! that learning stage where I learnt so many things about Life, Love, Friendship, health, God, family, people, …It was the most exciting year of my life. Yeap!!! It all started with the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me, meeting my besty…( at least i thought so!!), and it all ended with me loosing my besty!!!( nothing hurts as much as loosing a "Good"friend). It all started with so many blessings on my professional life which I am so thankful to God for. It taught me lessons; it gave me inspirations to never give up no matter how the road gets rocky. It made me realize how blessed I am by the wonderful friends around me. It opened my eyes to a very special person in my life whom i will always be grateful for all the support, love, and care poured towards me. It made me realize that life is short and I should enjoy it to the fullest. It showed me that life and people can hurt a lot sometimes, and all I should do is put myself together and continue and never tend to hurt anyone!

2011 was my life turning point. The past few months, I fully realized how life is precious and how important for me to value it. I realized that nothing in the world can be more important than a good health. 2011 taught me how to cry and wipe the tears and stand up and say I am fine and I will survive. 2011 made me a stronger woman…!!!

2011 taught me that I can never judge a book from the cover, but rather wait until I read it all. I was taught that a person can never be trusted unless tested…and it showed me that not all people I loved deserved my trust. 2011 taught me that individuals can change as life changes and as opportunities rises; it taught me that I should never allow anybody to step on my dignity. It taught me that I am way better than what I think I am and it inspired me to always stay the way I am and do nothing but strive to be a better person.

2011 showed me that people can be so cruel in this life. But with a Good heart, I can always respond better to their cruelty and teach them a lesson. 2011 proved to me that when one door closes, a better one opens and that I should never loose hope.

2011 came with many blessings on my road. I was blessed with a good career, a better health, more spiritual connection with God, still being sane and sound, a great heart that can only love and wishes the best for all the people who come across, and above all with all the love that every one of my friends, family members and the people I know have towards me.

2011 made me realize that without all of you, my dear friends and family members, I am nobody. So, to those who have loved me, I say thank you for your love. I love you too. To those who supported me throughout the past year I say great job! You saved me. To those who inspired me I say keep doing it I love it J To those who prayed for me during my down times I say God Bless you, and to all my family, friends, and acquaintances, I say I love you all so much and I wish you a happy new year. In this New Year, may your right hand always be stretched out in friendship, never in want!

Goodbye 2011…Welcome 2012

With Love

Houssna

Why Me?

“To all the people who feel, felt or will feel lost at a certain time of their lives”

How many of us have felt lost at a certain time of their lives? Not just one, or two but the majority have crossed that path at least once or twice in their lives if not to say every time they try to make a decision related to a certain aspect of their lives.

Success is what everyone wants. We were all born with the passion to succeed and achieve. Each one of us adopts a different method leading towards that success. With that goal in mind we cross many steps in our lives, we meet various people that affect our lives in both negative and positive ways, we travel to different places and get acquainted to newer cultures, learn new languages,…And all these factors contribute to us adopting new ideas, challenging our old ones, getting rid of some of our old habits and welcoming new ones.. Then, we start to struggle in our own ways to get the perfect job that pays the most, get the highest degrees with the best future even if we don’t like the major, get married to the most successful man or woman, buy the most expensive items… So we lead a life full of non stop race and challenges, and in the midst of all this, our worries increase, our ambitions develop, and our minds give born to a situation called confusion or being lost!

In an early article of mine I have spoken about the importance of not only setting goals in life but making those goals happy ones; in the sense that if my goal or your goal is not a happy one, you will reach it after a series of hard work, sacrifices, dedication, perseverance and a whole set of motivational exercises, but you will find yourself not enjoying it once achieved..!

I always believed that each one of us has worked hard enough in direct and indirect ways to achieve a goal in life. Some of us have been successful in getting what they want, others have been finding it hard to get even one third of what they strive to get due to many factors, and therefore find themselves in a situation that we can summarize in two words: Why me?

Personally speaking, I have crossed the “Why me” Situation many times in my life and I know many people who have experienced such a “being lost” situation when making decisions about a career change, marriage, dating, divorce, traveling, having babies… Especially at today’s world when going on one direction has become almost impossible and a person is often obliged to make a stop at different junctions and ask for directions to be sure he or she is on the right road to his or her destination.

Through my article I would like to specify the fact that we are all humans and being lost at a certain point in life is totally a natural aspect that can be treated with many ways apart from sitting and repeating the phrase : I feel lost or reproaching one self by saying why me?

There are simple baby steps that each one of us needs to follow to jump out of such a situation and welcome a life full of satisfaction. I always insist on the fact that happiness starts from within, from us, from the way we see life and the way we thank God for what we have. The more we appreciate the little we have, the more we will get, and the happier we will become. Thus, our worries, and our loss will start to gradually dismantle and eventually disappear.

If you are currently feeling lost about a situation, please remind yourself that it is just temporary, it might take days, months or years, and it will stop because you will find your road eventually and you will get to your happy goal. Then why being trapped in a self torture status when all you need to do is this:

1- Set a happy goal in life ( it is very simple (e.g): don’t make your goal only getting a job that pays off well, but make your goal getting a job about which you have a huge passion and love.)

2- Plan your life and your goal carefully ( I would say plan with both your mind and heart.)

3- Consult with the right people (sometimes in life, we need mentors, friends, people with whom we can have a little chat and refresh our ideas.)

4- Stop telling yourself I feel lost ( It will lead you nowhere)

5- Remind yourself all the time the following: what I need to do to get out of that vicious circle?( take action)

6- Restore your self esteem and listen to yourself ( only you can help yourself to achieve what you want)

7- Be closer to God ( the closer you are to God, the less confusion you will have)

8- Smile and Be happy J Life is too short, so make it full of passion and happy goals

H.J

Can Love trick us?

Falling in love is probably the most beautiful feeling that can ever happen to a person. Once you are truly in love with somebody and that person shares the same feeling about you… I believe that Life is endless for both of you. You can have as much problems as possible. You might be in confusion, you might be in a misunderstanding about which movie you would love to watch the upcoming Friday, which tie he should wear with his suit, and which dress will make her less attractive to other guys… but at the end of the dispute, which might take a minute, an hour, a day or even months, you guys will always say I love you to each other. This is where the happiness of love remains.

But what happens when love tricks us? When we feel that we are deeply in love with somebody and that we can not be without that person for a single minute, then we get married to each other, and out of sudden that heat of love is no longer there and the feeling of anger and disappointment prevails. Is it possible that two people who were enormously in love with each other , who dreamt about being married and who felt so passionate about spending the rest of their lives together, end up in an awkward after- marriage relationship where one of them or both of them do not feel the same about each other anymore. Is it love that tricked them from the very beginning or is it the institution of marriage that kills love rather than making it grows?

Many of you , while reading this article, will be stating the fact that this does not happen to everybody. That there are people who have been happily in love and their love even grows with marriage. To those people who are stating this, I say, you are right and I totally agree with you. I have heard, read and even witnessed the life of many couples who fall under this category, however, there is still a large number of people who find themselves under the same roof with a person they once thought he or she is the love of their life, and end up living a miserable life after moving in together under the institution of marriage.

Many of these people, unfortunately, do not feel the courage to come out and say : “ My feelings for this person has tricked me, I thought I was in love, but I realized with time that he or she is not the person I loved...” In some of the Western cultures, I believe that there is some sort of openness about this. And in most cases, when such feelings arise within a married couple, one of them will speak his or her mind out and say, I can’t continue! However, in cultures like the one I belong to, marriage is a sacred institution, just as any other culture, and divorce is the last option to choose. Sometimes, I feel that we do not pay as much attention to how married couples feel about each other, rather than putting the full attention into not separating, no matter how dissatisfied one of even the both of them are in that relationship.

I have witnessed and listened to people, especially women, who have expressed the fact that they have lost the love and affection and even the attraction to the person they married, yet they are forced by the cultural norms and the traditional rules to be with that person, have kids and accept the fact that they are stuck in that miserable situation for mostly the rest of their lives, for the society does not “welcome” divorced women…

These categories of women are largely found in many of the Eastern countries including my own country. Of course, there are women , who were able to defy the cultural Agenda, by speaking out against anything that will stand against them being happy and decided to move on with their lives with no regret and no fear.

Some people might argue about the fact that saving a marriage is more important than feeling happy in that marriage. I say, Happiness comes first. Being happy is the key to a healthy living, a healthy body and healthy mind. There is no religion and no law that states that a person (being a man or a woman) should remain in a relationship where they feel no intimacy, love and closure with the other person.

I started my article saying that if two people are deeply in love with each other, life is endless for both of them. However, my dilemma is , how come two people who felt in love so deeply, find themselves, out of love once married? Does love have an ending time? Or were they tricked by love?

To be continued…

H.J

A hint to the wise is sufficient enough to react!

On my last post , i talked about how Love can bring people closer and heal almost every wound created by negative attitudes that are making people in today's world further from each other every day. Today, and while sitting at home watching a TV show about " Cheating" , which i come across by chance while surfing the chaneles, i wondered about this outspreading phenomenon that is taking place almost everywhere and in most relationships not to say all, simply because i truly belive that there are still respectable Men and Women who love and respect each other. It really bothers me to see a woman loving a man so much and doing almost everything to make him happy and he turns out and cheats on her. I immeditaly jumped on my computer and i started writing to share how i feel about this , especially with Women, because We are the most affected by the pehnomenon...

I always believed that Love is a beautiful feeling that everybody is pursuing and looking for. However; while watching the show i noticed that many women ( and here i emphasise that my message from this post is mainly to you women out there who have been the victim of one sided Love that resulted in a Cheating situation from your partner!

Once again, i insist that Love is a beautiful feeling. There is nothing as beautful in this world as when a woman is being truly loved by a man. When that man is ready to do anything just to draw a smile on her face. I have been in touch with many women who have expressed their need to this kind of love simply because they were not able to find it despite their endless trials.

While watching the program, i noticed the large amout of women who have been a victim of their men's selfish attitude and that is "Cheating". I saw the pain on their faces, i saw the hurt and the humiliation in their eyes and i felt how bad that feeling is for a woman who truly loves her husband, or boyfriend. I thought a lot about this and i come up with one major conclusion behind this act that equals the following : When a woman fells in Love with a man who do not love her with the same equity that she does.. that Woman is most likely to be cheated on.
Again, i stress that my conclusion is coming from not only the show i watched, but from personal stories i heard from fiends, relatives and many women who crossed my path throughout my life.

Out of Love, a woman can bear almost anything and some women unfortuantely, and for the sake of love and the protection of the relationship, they bear the cheating aspect of a man . The fear and the hesitation and in many cases, the low slef esteem, are the reason why many women out there were not able to stand up and say i cant take it anymore.

Every women in this world deserves the right to be happy, treated with dignity and repsect and Loved in return for the love she gives. Most women get angry and furious after a cheating act, they might break up with the guy for a week, two, a month , two months but where there is Love , A true One! that woman comes back.. but what she should know is this: Once a Cheater always a cheater...

My message to you women out there who have been in a situation where you felt like there is no other way to go but to be back to the man who humiliates you and bellitelled you and direspected you, i am saying, stand up and say " I deserve a better place because i worth more that what He considers me to be".It will be very hard to do it but here are few steps that can help you deal with it if you decided that you will walk away:

1- Always say positive things to yourslef: It is not about you.. but it is rather his instability that led him to cheat on a woman who loved Him so much
2- You Can always find better person who will appreciate you and love you the way you deserve
3-Keep yourslef Busy at work, arround friends, dont stay on your own
4- Look beautiful everyday ( that will reinforce your self esteem) Go shopping with friends, Treat yourslef the way you deserve to be treated!
5- Turn the page and dont look back simply because a man who decided to replace you was never the perfect match for you.. so there is no need to waste your time thinking about him
6- Smile and be Happy because there is nothing better that can cure the break of a heart than a big smile and a cheerful attitude :)
7- Forgive and Forget: It will help your soul get stablised and will get you over it in a short of time.

Remember that a hint to the wise is sufficient enough.. so dont wait for another heartbreak..If you find yourslef in this situation, Jump out of the relationship and call it a day.. It was not worth!

H.J