My Story with 2011

2011 was the learning experience in my whole life!! that learning stage where I learnt so many things about Life, Love, Friendship, health, God, family, people, …It was the most exciting year of my life. Yeap!!! It all started with the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me, meeting my besty…( at least i thought so!!), and it all ended with me loosing my besty!!!( nothing hurts as much as loosing a "Good"friend). It all started with so many blessings on my professional life which I am so thankful to God for. It taught me lessons; it gave me inspirations to never give up no matter how the road gets rocky. It made me realize how blessed I am by the wonderful friends around me. It opened my eyes to a very special person in my life whom i will always be grateful for all the support, love, and care poured towards me. It made me realize that life is short and I should enjoy it to the fullest. It showed me that life and people can hurt a lot sometimes, and all I should do is put myself together and continue and never tend to hurt anyone!

2011 was my life turning point. The past few months, I fully realized how life is precious and how important for me to value it. I realized that nothing in the world can be more important than a good health. 2011 taught me how to cry and wipe the tears and stand up and say I am fine and I will survive. 2011 made me a stronger woman…!!!

2011 taught me that I can never judge a book from the cover, but rather wait until I read it all. I was taught that a person can never be trusted unless tested…and it showed me that not all people I loved deserved my trust. 2011 taught me that individuals can change as life changes and as opportunities rises; it taught me that I should never allow anybody to step on my dignity. It taught me that I am way better than what I think I am and it inspired me to always stay the way I am and do nothing but strive to be a better person.

2011 showed me that people can be so cruel in this life. But with a Good heart, I can always respond better to their cruelty and teach them a lesson. 2011 proved to me that when one door closes, a better one opens and that I should never loose hope.

2011 came with many blessings on my road. I was blessed with a good career, a better health, more spiritual connection with God, still being sane and sound, a great heart that can only love and wishes the best for all the people who come across, and above all with all the love that every one of my friends, family members and the people I know have towards me.

2011 made me realize that without all of you, my dear friends and family members, I am nobody. So, to those who have loved me, I say thank you for your love. I love you too. To those who supported me throughout the past year I say great job! You saved me. To those who inspired me I say keep doing it I love it J To those who prayed for me during my down times I say God Bless you, and to all my family, friends, and acquaintances, I say I love you all so much and I wish you a happy new year. In this New Year, may your right hand always be stretched out in friendship, never in want!

Goodbye 2011…Welcome 2012

With Love

Houssna

Why this Blog???

Before i decided to create this blog and carry on my great passion for human relationships, i always wanted to help people, assist them, be nice to people, and above all consider myslef a friend to every person i meet in my life; being old, or young, black or white, Muslim, jewish, christian, male or female..... Why simply because i always believed that there is nothing worth in life more than having a good and an enduring relationship with people.

I have discovered throughout my past 7 years that most of my life has been concentrated on a machine, and that is the Computer. These years have been almost computeralized in all its apsects to the extent that my human interaction with people started to degrade.

I have always been hearing this friend of mine telling me " Houssna are we becoming like a machine" and i would be asking her always why are you saying this.... ??? She would go like this:" the first thing we do when we wake up is to turn on our computers, work and study and write and chat and talk to people and the last thing we do before we sleep is to turn off our computer..; So basically our daily life is related to a machine that is driving us to loose our Physcial- human interaction.

When i thought of what she has been telling me and other friends of ours, i felt that she is right... but i related that to distance and the fact that we are in a country that is not ours, which neccesistaes the use of computers all day long to stay in touch with people....

Yet, our arrival to Morocco, made us feel that it not a question of distance, but it is rather a matter of atittude, a need, a must to do aspect that we cant get rid of.

Our work need us to be on a daily basis with a computer in hand, even during weekend. Our relationships with people ( friendships, dating, and even marriages) nowdays are relying on MSN, Yahoo messenger, SKYPE, emails, and many other technical tools that have been making it easier for us to get in touch with our friends, and relatives, yet depriving us from the entertainement of having a physical contact with these people.

Thus, i decided to use techonology to help us get back the human ties that were lost, help us understand more about ways of improving our social ties , by understanding more about our lives, our attitudes, our behaviors, our entourage....

I decided to create this blog to help myslef and everybody else understand more about human relationships and interactivity. To help us all achieve a better place to live , to pave the road for us all to get acquinted with more techniques for having a happy life.

How many of us write in their to do list for the week... Meeting with friends?? Coffee with family? dinner with my boyfriend-girlfriend? lunch with my wife-husband? visiting my grandmother?..... I personally find myslef unable to do it?and i always purposely relate that to the busy schedule of my work and the non stop professional duties that are making me always in front of a machine..... But that is not really the reason? and i am sure that this is not your reaon as well....

So this blog, will help us all draft our to do list for every week with at least a 30 to 40 % personal attitude that aims to strenghten our social and Human relationships with each other.

Good Luck,

Understanding Human Relationships!

One of the most important relationship lessons I learned was this: The relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves. Our external relationships and our internal relationships are in fact the same relationships. They only seem different because we look at them through different lenses....

Let’s consider why this is true. Where do all your relationships exist? They exist in your thoughts. Your relationship with another person is whatever you imagine it to be. Whether you love someone or hate someone, you’re right. Now the other person may have a completely different relationship to you, but understand that your representation of what someone else thinks of you is also part of your thoughts. So your relationship with someone includes what you think of that person and what you believe s/he thinks of you. You can complicate it further by imagining what the other person thinks you think of him/her, but ultimately those internal representations are all you have.

Even if your relationships exist in some objective reality independent of your thoughts, you never have access to the objective viewpoint. You’re always viewing your relationships through the lens of your own consciousness. The closest you can get to being objective is to imagine being objective, but that is in no way the same thing as true objectivity. That’s because the act of observation requires a conscious observer, which is subjective by its very nature.

At first it might seem troublesome that you can never hope to gain a truly accurate, 100% objective understanding of your relationships. You can never escape the subjective lens of your own consciousness. That would be like trying to find the color blue with a red lens permanently taped over your eyes. That doesn’t stop people from trying, but such attempts are in vain. If you fall into the trap of trying to think of your relationships as objective entities that are external to you, you’ll be using an inescapably inaccurate model of reality. Consequently, the likely outcome is that you’ll frustrate yourself to no end when it comes to human relationships. You’ll make relating to other people a lot harder than it needs to be. Intuitively you may know something is off in your approach to relationships, but you’ll remain stuck until you realize that every relationship you have with another person is really a relationship that exists entirely within yourself.

Fortunately, once you embrace the subjective nature of relationships, you’ll have a much easier time relating to people. It’s easier to get where you want to go when you have an accurate map. The subjective view of relationships implies that you can change or improve your relationships with others by working on the internal relationships within yourself. Furthermore, you can improve your internal relationships, such as your self-esteem, by working on your relationships with others. Ultimately it’s all the same thing.


Source: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/01/understanding-human-relationships/